Gambling counselling.

Gambling counselling internationally.  Do you want to change gambling problems?   Brian Dennis Counselling.


I offer counselling via the internet to clients who have gambling problems and want to stop gambling.  I am a professional counsellor practising in UK and worldwide by internet.


Gambling can be a fun occupation for some people. Other people find that gambling can be a severe problem. It can destroy relationships, family trust and friendships; as well as having a destructive financial impact on the gambler's and others' lives.


Many gamblers will think that they do not have money to pay for counselling to stop gambling. Then they continue gambling, which loses more money. Stopping gambling can be a one-time change of life. It will involve personal effort and some costs. 


Gamblers will often have many reasons for not stopping. Those may include:  "its only a little bet", "it is not often", "it doesn't do any harm", "I usually win", etc. Those excuses are a denial of the facts that gambling costs - normally relationships. Living with a gambler will be a constant level of fear of what may happen, or when. For many partners and family, the efforts of having that continuous fear is not worth any benefits of the relationship; then the relationship stops, at some or all levels.


If you wish to stop gambling, I can help you. I cannot garantee you will stop; that will be your effort and decision. We will work on developing your efforts to stop.

We will work on the phases of change: understanding the existing situation, understanding where you want to be, developing motivations for that change and the tools to make that change. There may be relapses - which can be considered as bumps in the road, not a total car crash.


In some ways 'gambling', or taking a chance, is natural to humans - it is how primitive mankind survived. Humans tried various foods and lifestyles;  if they guessed correctly they survived, if incorrectly they might not. Examples of those necessary guesses, or gambles, were: which berries are good or poisonous, which cave is safe or dangerous, which animals can be hunted and considered as food, which animals were dangerous.


Gambling is an industry which, cleverly, appeals to some people to gamble. Gamblers know that they are more likely to lose than to win, however they fool themselves into believing that they will win - against the odds. The industry encourages that self-deception and lack of reality.

The gambling industry uses many techniques and tools to influence people towards making irrational decisions to gamble, or continue gambling. The industry has fine-tuned the gambling attraction process during many years and continues to do so. 


Nobody was born as a gambler, it is not a physical habit or 'addiction'. Therefore, it is a habit which was learned and can be changed. Accepting that habits, including gambling, can be changed is often a large part of the process of stopping gambling. One useful example of habits for many people is the way they fold their arms - a simple habit, learned at a young age. Many people will find it difficult to change the way they fold their arms to the other manner, yet it is only a habit. Realising that people can change that habit opens the possibility that they can change, and stop, their gambling habits.


In counselling we work to understand the gambling habits and tendencies. We work towards building motivations to stop gambling. Changing the habit of gambling can be difficult for many people, they may be battling against a long-term habit which is also an inbuilt natural tendency. Every gambler is different, their habits are different, their motivations are different, their resolve and dependance levels are different. Those individual differences mean that a common 'menu' of how to stop gambling is unlikely to work for most gamblers, it is why individual counselling is most effective in changing the individual person to be a non-gambler.


When a person is stressed, anxious, worried, has fear, etc. they are more likely to go back to a habit which the brain remembers as a comfort place. Often that brain memory will be selective; remembering the reward centre of winning, whilst not including the centre of losing a relationship or career, other opportunities as well as other associated negative aspects.  It is why a person who made efforts to give up smoking may have a cigarette before a big exam or test.


Stopping gambling is possible, if the motivation is there and the counselling is really used and engaged with by the client.   


Additional information is available at my other website:    https://www.counsellingexeter.co.uk


For a prompt appointment, call or text: 07757 233386 (UK). I may be with a client, or otherwise occupied, in which case please leave a message with your contact number. I will respond promptly.   Or email:   info@counsellingexeter.co.uk        Or use the contact page to send me an email.